If You Want Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive
Who loves reading? What do you read? Are you a 50 Shades of Grey type, or a Men are From Mars, Women are From Jupitor type? I must admit I am a little bit of both. I figured I might as well better myself and learn something if I am going to take the time to read a book, but don’t get me wrong, I also like to dream about getting swept away in a gorgeous billionaires helicopter and taken to the ‘Red Room of Pain’.(….although I’m not sure how I would really feel about that if it were actually to happen….something to ponder more on later.) Ok, getting off track here.
To anyone who has young kids, you know how little time you have to sit down with a good book. And after reading “The Little Red Hen”, or “The Little Blue Truck” a thousand times before bed, you may not feel like doing so, but if you can keep your eyes open for even ten pages each night, I highly suggest this awesome book I have been reading titled “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, by Dale Carnegie. It will not just help in your business, but it has opened my eyes in dealing with my children as well. I wanted to share with you all a bit of insight from Mr. Carnegie. This stuff can be applied to anything from dealing with staff, clients, friends, and children. Awesome stuff…..(…apparently I can’t stress how much I love this book!)
*Don’t criticize, condemn or complain, but give honest and sincere appreciation* instead of condemning people, try giving them positive feedback to lead them to the result you want. As soon as you criticize, they will get their defenses up and it will hurt their sense of importance. We are creatures of emotion, not logic, and this is especially true with children. By criticizing we do not make lasting changes, and often occur resentment. The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. Look for the positive.
*Arouse in people an eager want* Try to see things from the other persons point of view before your own. We all go about our lives doing things that WE want to do. Caring about what WE want. If you are trying to get someone to do something (ie:getting your child to eat his veggies), think about what would make THEM want to do so. People are interested in what THEY want, not what YOU want. (My son doesn’t care that I want him to eat his carrots, but he will eat them if he thinks he will grow big and strong from doing so, because then he will be big enough to ride his older brothers bike.)
So before you try to persuade your kids to clean their rooms, think about what might make them want to do so.
I am going to stop there as I could go on and on and on…..just get this book! Super quick read. Amazing insights. This book has been around for decades and will be around for many more to come. I hope even just those two suggestions will help out a little bit and may be a good place to start.
I would love to hear about how you are implementing these into your lives. Throw me some examples, stories, feedback.
I would also love to hear about some great reads you are all enjoying as well! Please share them with me on my fb page!
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